{"id":1241,"date":"2019-08-15T09:48:57","date_gmt":"2019-08-15T13:48:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tamikanewhouse.com\/?p=1241"},"modified":"2019-09-23T15:30:47","modified_gmt":"2019-09-23T19:30:47","slug":"traces-of-mika-episode-02-conversations-with-my-ying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tamikanewhouse.com\/traces-of-mika-episode-02-conversations-with-my-ying\/","title":{"rendered":"Traces of Mika Episode 02: Conversations with my Ying"},"content":{"rendered":"
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So, I am sitting here trying to gather my thoughts behind this episode. This episode opens up with a skit called, \u201cDating These Ni**as\u201d (handbook is coming soon by the way). This conversation started after celebrating 420 and sipping on some Jose Cuervo in my high rise and boyyyyyyy did it take a turn towards ratchetness and vulgarity lol. I had just started being comfortable with people coming over to my house and I was hosting another small gathering. The conversation started after I probably started complaining about Dating in Atlanta again. Now, I dig more into my relationships and dating life in episode 3 but for those who know me; know that I can get bored quickly. I like adventure and newness and I am a self-proclaimed relationship expert lol. So, part 1 of Dating These Ni**as opens up with naming off what type of dudes there are first. But hold tight\u2026.we\u2019ll be breaking them down and how to date them throughout the entire season one of this podcast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Conversation\u2026..<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So,\n in this episode, I sit down with the closest person to me, Legendary \nLaQuita, or better known as my Ying. As in Ying and Yang get it? Lol. \nSo, remember when I said that I was the girl that ate lunch in the \nbathroom because I didn\u2019t know how to make friends. Well, that isn\u2019t so \ntrue now as an adult lol. I have a core group of people who I trust. \nPeople who I don\u2019t share online or even expose our relationships online \nbecause what the f*ck for? People are nosey as sh*t and I protect my \npeace. But at 33 and with this new series, I decided to have this \nconversation openly with her. My Ying!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She has seen me battle with being happy over the last few years, she has been my right hand when producing <\/strong>Black Writers Weekend<\/strong><\/a> and the AAMBC Awards<\/strong> <\/a>over the past few years. She is also the one who got me to start writing Suga Hill<\/a><\/strong> when I was lacking motivation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We\n talk about Hopes and Dreams in this episode from young Mika\u2019s POVs to \nmy current day POVs. She helped me realize that although I didn\u2019t grow \nup receiving hugs from my own mother, she showed me affection in other \nways. As children, we often don\u2019t see how our parents mold us and love \nus and it wasn\u2019t until I was perhaps thirty years old when I discovered \nthere are so many ways to show love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Delphine,\n my mother, bought me my first keyboard. You hear me playing it in the \nflashback scenes of young Mika on this series. My mother also bought me \nmy first desk so that I could feel like a real writer. I had told her \nmany years ago that I was going to grow up and be a writer. That I was \ngoing to grow up and move to Atlanta and write full time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because\n I was a spiritual child, I used to also see visions of myself writing \nin a caf\u00e9, sipping on coffee. Now let\u2019s remember what time this was. \nThis was the 90s when I was having these visions. There was no Wi-Fi \nthen, I thought coffee was disgusting then too, and there weren\u2019t any \nlaptops. But there I was. I saw myself sitting in a caf\u00e9 writing on \nsomething that wasn\u2019t a journal and sipping on coffee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fast forward twenty years later\u2026\u2026that\u2019s my reality!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Although\n my mother rarely said the words, I love you and rarely hugged me, she \nwas investing in the core elements of who I was. A creator. I hate that I\n can\u2019t talk to her now and tell her that I appreciate that. I bet she \nsaw those visions of me too now that I think about it. My mother was \nmore gifted than me in the spiritual realm. You couldn\u2019t even lie to \nher; she just always knew. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

She\n wasn\u2019t the most emotional and affectionate person and ironically thirty\n years later I am exactly like her. This is something that I talk about \nwith my own daughter in the coming episodes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But\n any who\u2026\u2026this is my first open and vulnerable conversation that I have \never had. It\u2019s diving in deep, exposing young Mika, and I had to have it\n with someone that I trusted. And even though you\u2019ll hear us cracking \njokes and talking sh*t, listen to the message that I say about Hopes and\n Dreams. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\n may be harsh in my delivery because I don\u2019t believe in your dreams just\n staying a dream. I don\u2019t believe in just hoping for greatness. I \nactually go and try to achieve it. I am a very intentional person \nbecause life is short. My own mother died in front of my eyes when I was\n 20 years old and when you see death when you witness a soul leave, it changes you. So, I have no limits when I am pursuing my happiness because one day it\u2019ll be all over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\n want to hear about your hopes and dreams too. If after you hear this \nepisode you feel compelled to reach out, want some advice, need \nencouragement, or some tough love; hit me up. After all, I have helped \nhundreds of creatives dream out loud over the past few years and I am \nready to push even more into walking into their purpose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So let\u2019s dive into episode 2…<\/p>\n\n\n\n